What do David, Daniel, Jeremiah, and Elijah have in common?
What would you say the most important part of being a man is?
~ Some would say that He needs to be the best provider he can be.
~ Others would say that he needs to be the best protector around.
~ Some others would say that he needs to be very loving to his wife and kids.
~ Still, others will say that the best attribute a man can have is to be humble.
I agree with everything that I have put there, but it is still not the most important thing a man can do for his wife and kids.
~ A man must first be regenerated from the inside out.
~ He must be able to humble himself and pray to the Creator of the universe.
~ He must put his trust in Jesus the Messiah or Savior of all creation.
~ A man must pray and ask God to help him commit to a life of communication with Him before anything else can happen.
~ This is just the beginning. If a man can’t humble himself and pray to the Almighty Lord, how can he then try to connect with God’s Spirit to guide him through this extremely tough responsibility of carrying and leading a family?
You see, a strong family leader is one who knows that it is not by his own actions and doings that his family will succeed. It is through the Spiritual communication with the only Power that can make things change in our lives.
~ But how can a man absolutely hear from God in this fast paced world of fast travel, fast internet, and fast morals?
The only way that a person can experience the power of God and be able to lead his family is by seeking and interceding for them in the presence of God. And the only way that a man of God can do this is by unhurried and uninterrupted prayer time with his Maker.
“God’s acquaintance is not made hurriedly. He does not bestow His gifts on the casual or hasty comer and goer.”*(EM Bounds- Power Through Prayer)
I need to say this, and again, I am giving some of you a warning. This has to be said… Here it comes….
~ We as men can spend long hours at work without any problems. We can even volunteer extra time away from our families.
~ We can watch hours and hours of sports and not complain that we are tired.
~ We can spend tons of time on the computer without blinking an eye.
~ Let alone the unadulterated time we devote to video games while our families suffer from absentdaditis, a common sickness found in western culture!
But asked to go to a prayer meeting at church or to just pray at home in your prayer closet and men will find every excuse in the world not to do it!
Imagine if God worked the way we do in our relationship with Him? Or as hard as we do to communicate with Him? What would this world and our families be like?
Oscar, but you don’t understand! I work long hours and sit through horrendous traffic! When I get home, I just want to unwind and be with my family. I don’t see anything wrong with that.
I want to come home and not have met wife unload on me about everything that went haywire in the house while I was away, working hard for them. Is it too much to ask to be left alone with my favorite sports team until I go to bed?
Men, it’s time to step up. You can’t make the excuse that you are the provider and work so hard that when you get home, all you do is sit on a couch and endlessly click on the remote until you are so tired that you have to go to bed.
You can get right with God, your wife, and kids right here, right now. If you can’t pray at night with your family, then get up early tomorrow morning. Better yet, keep still and quiet long enough and allow God to speak to you.
How? Read His Word, the Bible, then sit and ask God to teach you on what you just read. As you’re quietly sitting, don’t think of anything else except an answer from the Holy Spirit.
Don’t wait. I speak from experience. I always have to make it a point of just sitting still enough, and wait on God to guide me. If you knew any of my family and friends, they would tell you that sitting for something is not one of my strong suits. But I have learned that sitting still and waiting on the Lord, renews my strength and gives me the peace I need to handle the tough day-to-day things.
Again, start being a man of prayer right now.
~You will see that this is the most important thing you can do for yourself and others.
~See if you don’t become a mighty man of valor spiritually.
~ If you don’t become a more loving husband.
~ A more loving dad.
~ And a better leader in your home and workplace.
P.S. I never explained what the men in the Bible had in common, I think you know what it is but that will be in PART III B. The power of a praying and patient man…
I recently had the pleasure of having fellowship with a few men that have taken the sole responsibility for their kids. It isn’t because they want it this way. They never thought they would be the single parent taking care of everything in the home.
Yet, when speaking to them, their roles as providers, caregivers and leaders are evident.
One thing I have noticed from the church as a whole, that when there is divorce, we subconsciously side with the wife. It doesn’t matter why we always seem to think that divorce automatically falls into the hands of the guilty father. I want you to let or allow the above statement to sink in. The husband-father will always be blamed if the marriage fails.
— We know the statistical effects of an absent father, how most kids with a single mom in the home are twice as much likely to be living below the poverty line.
— We also know the devastation of emotions children with absent fathers can pose throughout the life of the child.
Society is too quick to give those statistics but is very cautious in doing the same thing to the women who decide to leave their husbands and kids behind to sow their oats as single female party animals.
This weekend my eyes were opened even wider, I believe that it was not a coincidence that I got to fellowship with those incredible men.
These single dads are proof that the church needs to really crack down on those who take, Till death do us part*, lightly. This easy divorce in the church has to stop.
I have seen where the church leadership sides with one person and allows them to get divorced over the smallest of issues while retaining them in ministry or bringing them back to serve where they were before without anyone holding both spouses accountable for their actions. There are exceptions, Adultery and also spouse abuse. I come from a family who yelled out their problems, I know what is verbal abuse compared to physical abuse. And in a lot of instances where a spouse tells the pastors that they are being verbally abused, are cases where either the wife or the husband are not willing to compromise or submit. You noticed I put both man and woman because the word of God tells us to submit to one another**before the wives are to submit to their husbands.
I applaud those men who are taking care of business as single dads. I caution those fathers that have shrugged this responsibility altogether, yes, I will say it, here it comes….
Shame on you. Shame on you because you have given the responsibility to another person and to the government. The responsibility that God has told you to take care from Genesis chapter 3 and throughout the Bible. Paul calls those men who won’t care for their families worse than infidels. The Greek word for infidel is Apestos(***Strong’s G571). Funny that this almost sound like the Spanish word Apestoso(Stinky or wreaking of bad odor-my translation).
All this to say, Fathers, don’t allow yourselves to think that you can have babies everywhere and then shrug your responsibilities by never being around. It does not work that way. Be real men and love, cherish and support your wives and kids…It is the original way God intended for men to be like. Not what the TV programs or popular songs are telling us to be…
* Matthew 19:5-6
** Ephesians 5:21-22
*** 1 Timothy 5:8
The minute that I start writing a story, whether a sentence, a paragraph or a chapter, I have used my God-given ability to do something productive.\ for God and unto His glory.
Don’t let the world tell more stories, be the light that shines in darkness. Be the guiding lighthouse that directs ships through the thick fog of life!
Some people may not be called to write books, but you still have an imagination that can take you anywhere you want. Create stories that could be told by your family from generation to generation. Don’t be afraid to take the first steps! If you don’t do it, the world will dictate to your children and children’s children. Who would you rather have teaching valuable words to them, the world or you?
Remember, point them to the Light of the world. Or they will be pointed away from Him by the world…
Thought Of The Day:
Time Out To Sort Things Out—
We have been hearing about how our President will be securing the border. Yet, there are people who are against this. I ask myself why would anyone be agains such a move?
We have been one of the most hospitable nations on earth. I would not be here if my parents not had the boldness to move away from their friends, families and everything that was comfortable and familiar to them. Yet we as a country are faced with the biggest issue of our lifetime. Whether to keep allowing our border to be so open as to make us vulnerable.
As a Christian I am to take care of the widow, orphan and the stranger or alien. As a child of immigrants, I empathize with all who come to this country. As a father and now grandfather, I will defend my family against all who come against us. As a Christian, there are people who hate me for my faith and no one is talking about this. There are people infiltrating this country and the Western world to impose their law by any means possible.
They hate what Christianity stands for because of their ignorance.
This is why it is vital to take a breather and make sure that we bring in people who will blend into the culture and thought process of this country, no matter their faith or place of origin. We need to ensure that those coming into this country will want to be Americans and nothing else.
It is time to secure our country in order for us to secure the rest of the world later…the stronger America is within, the stronger the world will be…
With New Year upon us, I would like to take the time to focus on what’s ahead. Most people will set new goals. Some will only think of them, some will verbally tell others, some will write them down.
As I reflect on this past year and take a look at the future, I am thinking of the new Presidency and all of its implications. I am also thinking of the economy and how it is still sputtering. I see the crimes against humanities that terrorists are free to act on without any repercussions from any country, including ours.
The economic and social forecasts tell us that there is division among ethnicities, with minorities taking the brunt of the hit. Yet, I see friends from all ethnicities and backgrounds who have been affected by finances and by the social issues. I see families being torn apart by politics and morals.
If I were not a Christian, I would lose hope and have a nervous breakdown as some people have. I would forsake all and go live in the desert by myself as a hermit.
But I have Hope. Hope not in a new political leader nor in a certain party. I also don’t place my hope on investments. All these things will fail me at some point in my life. The hope that I place is in Jesus Christ, the Savior of the world. He is the One that I lean on in times of troubles and doubts regarding the future. Jesus tells us in the Gospel of Matthew Chapter 6 verse 34, not to worry about tomorrow because tomorrow will basically take care of itself. We can’t change tomorrow nor can we worry about something that hasn’t happened. In the same chapter, Jesus tells us that He will take care of us because He takes care of all of His creatures. He assures us that if birds eat and are sustained every day, so also will He maintain us. Jesus tells us not to worry about our clothing since He adorns the lilies of the fields in great colors, how much more will He do for us?
What I am saying is this, it is good for us to have goals for the New Year, even to strive to better ourselves physically, which most people usually set goals on every year. Some will endeavor to read more and learn from what they study. But very few people will make it a point to start right with their Creator. The God of the universe who can actually help all of mankind if only they will ask for His help. So before you set goals to go to the gym every day, or go back to school to learn a new career or hobby, make sure that your spiritual side is well nourished for the New Year. Don’t wait until January first to start, you can make up your mind to start this crucial phase of your life right now.
All you have to do is repent of your past that is holding you back, receive Jesus’ forgiveness through His death and resurrection on the cross. You see, we all are by nature wrongdoers or sinners and this keeps us separated from God. The Book of Romans chapter 3 verse 23 tell us this:
“For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God.”
Have Him remit or pardon or cancel the debt or weight of your sins. Book of Romans chapter 5 verse 8:
“But God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.”
And make sure that you ask Him to help you not to make the same mistakes that have hurt you and others in your life. Book of Romans chapter 10 verse 9-10:
9 that if you confess with your mouth the Lord Jesus and believe in your heart that God has raised Him from the dead, you will be saved. 10 For with the heart, one believes unto righteousness, and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation.
4. Ask for a fresh start and be free of the heavy baggage you have been carrying all these years. It doesn’t matter what it is or who you’ve hurt. Jesus will forgive and forget them as long as your heart is truly repentant. Book of Romans Chapter 10 verses 11-13:
11 For the Scripture says, “Whoever believes on Him (Jesus) will not be put to shame.12 For there is no distinction between Jew and Greek, for the same Lord over all is rich to all who call upon Him (Jesus). 13 For “whoever calls on the name of the Lord shall be saved.”
Once you have done this, ask someone who is a Christian in your circle of family or friends to answer any questions you may have. If you don’t know anyone who is a Christian, please write a comment below, and I will help you find a good church in your area.
Again, don’t wait until the New Year, repent, commit and receive a new life. Start the New year right with God and all other things will fall into place. No, your life will not be perfect, no, your past wrongs and mistakes will not go away. But God will help you through them so that you will finally move forward with your life without the huge weight on your shoulders. Let Jesus carry the burdens you have in life, you will find that He will bear them for you making your load a lot easier to bear.
Happy New Year and may God start yours refreshed, renewed and relieved!
So anyone who thinks they are standing strong should be careful that they don’t fall.
The 1st letter to the Corinthians- Chapter 10 verse 12
I remember when I was younger, we used to play tag. This was a special tag game, if we saw someone, we would sneak up by them and try to scare them by yelling as loud as we could.
One day, as one of my friend Joey’s (changed his name) little brother was bugging him to let him play, my friend gave him a head start and so went his little brother running trying to find a spot to hide and surprise us.
My friend Joey was very cocky and he wanted to catch his little brother. When I say catch, that’s saying it nicely. He wanted to scream at him and make his first game of scream-tag a very bad memory for years to come.
One thing that Joey’s pride didn’t allow him to see, was that his little brother had been watching all our moves and no matter how good we were, he got to know all of our game habits.
Joey’s little brother watched every game plan we had in getting our friends on the other team and was so hungry to get in on the action.
My friend’s blindness to his younger brother’s tenacity in wanting to play with older kids went over his head because like all of us, our siblings were too young and dumb to be part of our group of friends.
As my friend Joey started looking for him, I saw his smile. Joey was very good at being a ninja.
As he turned to look for his younger brother I saw a little figure come right behind him and scream off the top of his lungs.
My friend Joey’s face was not smiling anymore as his body contorted into matrix-like move, until his whole body slammed into the bags of trash that his mom had asked him to put in the bin (which of course he did not) a few yards away.
As his face hit one of the bags, he screamed in agony!
My friend Joey’s little brother had scored the biggest scream-tag hit of all time.
Joey in reality was not hurt. The screeching scream that was heard out of his mouth was due to the fact that the bag his face smashed into was the dog and cat stuff he had just cleaned up a few days before.
His pride was hurt because he had underestimated his younger brother and because he thought he was invincible.
A few years after this incident, my friend Joey’s family moved out of state.
I often think of this memory and of how we sometimes get so good at things, that we forget to seek God’s guidance in all things. When we get to the point of taking God for granted, like my friend Joey did with our scream-tag game, we will end up with our faces in the same bag that Joey did.