A Submitting Servant-Leader |Sips of Living Water 2021

When we hear that we have to submit to God….

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Audio Version: The audio version can be heard on its own…But is better when you follow along with the posted items:

Ephesians 5:21-22

Last Sunday’s study on the Fruits of the Spirit, I spoke about the main thing being, that we are to walk in the Spirit. But before we can walk in the Spirit, I talked about Ephesians chapter 5, where all the men usually quote Ephesians chapter 5:22…. But overlook Ephesians 5:21:

Husband & Wife are to submit to God & each other:

Paul is telling the church in Ephesus that everyone should submit themselves to one another in the fear of God. Then in verse 22, Paul goes on to say that wives should submit to their husbands.

Wives are incredibly loyal creatures!

But here’s the thing, when the wife sees that her husband has submitted himself to Christ, & has also submitted himself to the role of Servant-leader of his family, taking care of his wife & his kids… that he is submitting to the authority of serving his family… wives will gladly submit to their husbands.

Oscar Roca

Record scratching sound…

But here’s the caveat – one thing I notice often. I’ve said this before and it goes for both sides:

—I see a lot of wives in churches that do not submit to their husbands, and I wonder if they’ve ever submitted to God. 

I see husbands who can easily quote Ephesians 5:22 to their wives, but have never taken the role of Servant-leader in their home.

…If you turn the page from Ephesians chapter 5 to chapter 6, you’ll think there is a chapter break… which doesn’t give the original flow of the letter Paul wrote to the Church in Ephesus, since the original had no chapters or verses. It was one long scrolled letter….

Oscar Roca

Attention childreN:

Ephesians 6:1:4

The very next verses after Ephesians 5:33(Ephesians 6, see above picture), are that children should obey their parents in the Lord, because honoring our parents is the right thing to do. In verse two, it states the children need to honor their dad and mom, which is the first commandment with a promise that it may be well with the children who honor and obey their parents. And that those who honor and obey their parents may live a long life on earth or may live long on earth (see picture below—Exodus 20).

5th of 10 Commandments in Exodus 20

Then it says something peculiar:

–In Ephesians 6, verse 4, it says: “4 Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but raise them up in  the discipline and instruction of the Lord..

Ephesians 6:4

Men, just like our wives, in order for your children to obey, and honor you, and your wife, you must first have their love, attention and only then, will your kids listen to you. I’ve had so many people that are in ministry have wayward kids who do not listen to their parents. You ever wonder why they are not listening?It may be because you parents have been too busy at work, at church, and have given these kids very little attention.


Children need their parents to both be intentionally there.

Children need love.

Children need discipline.

Children need attention.

But mostly children need to know that they are loved and cared for by both parents.

If you are a parent with wayward kids, and you continue in ministry, and if you’re wondering why they are not listening to you, it may be:

That your kids are really, really rotten to the bone and it’s not your fault.

That your kids are just like every normal person on earth your heart is desperately wicked.

But it may also be that they’re getting in trouble because you never pay attention to them?

Your children may be telling you that you are spending way too much helping other peoples kids, helping to maintain a church building… or maybe they are just craving the attention to have you for themselves.

Questions to ponder:

I ask you who are parents and are serving in ministry to ask yourself this:

When you are at the Bema seat of Christ, will Jesus be thanking you for your service in the church building?

Will Jesus be thanking you for helping other parents rear, and educate their children?

Or will His first question would be, “What did you do with the precious things I personally gave you to take care of?

Serving is part of who we are:

Do not get me wrong, it is good to serve. But one thing I know about American culture, scratch that, modern world culture – people are way too busy for their own good.

Oscar Roca

The hardest part about serving in ministry is knowing when to say enough for the day. Many churches have very few servants who are there all the time. But your time and effort in a church building is not going to hold any importance to the time and effort you put on your spouse, your children, and your children’s children.

The Encouragement:

I encourage you to look deep within you, and ask yourself if have you submitted yourself to God, fully 100%?

Have you submitted yourself to your spouse, and to your family as a Servant leader for the man?

Have you submitted yourself to your husband as a wife?

Children, have you submitted to your parents, by obeying, and honoring them like God tells us in His Commandments? 

If you are unsure of any of the above questions that pertain to you, I would stop everything right now and get right with God, with your spouse, and with your kids.

If you are a son or daughter, have you honored your parents by submitting to the Word of God, and obeying them (Both God’s Word & your parents)?

Mark 10:45


Finally, remember what Jesus tells us to serve one another. The only way is by His supernatural love given by The Holy Spirit! He also tells us to be careful on over serving:

Luke 10:38-42

Yes, Jesus also made it clear what we had to do when over serving in ministry:

Oscar Roca

In the story of two sisters, Jesus tells the sister who was obviously burning out in serving the ever growing followers of Jesus, that to sit under His feet was better than to be busy running around serving. As Christians, we must always remember to teach our kids the precious balancing act of serving our neighbors, and maintaining our sanity by taking the precious and valuable time of hearing and studying God’s Word. The most important thing we can lave as a legacy to our immediate family is to spend time with Jesus so much so, that when we go and serve, we will know when to take time off and be with our families, to love, pray, instruct, discipline, and cherish the time with them…

May The LORD bless & Keep all of you!

Oscar Roca

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