I just found out that my wife has been carrying a heavy burden. She had told me bits and pieces about what was happening with a long time acquaintance. Yet, she kept the heavy parts quiet. Not because she wanted to hide things from me but because she was in prayer about it. She wanted me to still speak to this person in a typical manner. My wife knew that this person needs prayer and salvation and that we need to always pray for this to happen.
Her accusers were spreading lies and slandering her name. Also, come to find out, I have been guilty by association! Association of her being my wife.
You see, if you know anything about my wife, the lies and rumors that have spread about her character are so far out there, that if this were a movie or TV program, it would be about a female protagonist who has been falsely accused of something she did not do.
In scripture, the book of Proverbs tells us that if a man finds a good wife, he has found a good thing and finds favor with God.
I have found a great wife. A Proverbs 31 wife who has never done anything to insult or hurt anyone on purpose. She is faithful and loving to the point of people taking advantage of her. But, this is who my wife is.
Now comes the plot twist, this acquaintance of hers, has been a thorn in her side. Not just with her but with others. This is a bully who has a life that I would not envy. This person has slandered my wife and bullied everyone around to the point that no one likes, nor wants to be around this person. My wife had to confront this person a few years back, and because this person is a bully, they did not like what my wife had to say. From then on, the war against my wife began. The slandering, malicious gossip started. Worse than this, I was involved in this slander. How? By being her husband, I was found guilty by association.
This lonely, pathetic, sad person accused us of falsely spreading damaging information about them.
When my wife told me, I laughed because I thought she was telling me a joke. Then I saw her face and realized that she was dead serious.
First thing I did was to pray with her. Because I know the person spreading these false accusations is, well, let’s say, a person who needs God. In a big way. This person has been out there in the world so deep in its murkiness, that they are drowning in it.
I am praying for this person and the poor saps who have been duped into this person’s lies and manipulation.
You can say anything about me. You can insult me all you want. I am made of thick skin spiritually and mentally. But don’t come after my wife with lies and defamation of her character. Especially when this person knows that my wife would never do whatever they are falsely accusing her of doing.
One thing that people know about me is that I don’t beat around the bush when I need to confront an issue. Whenever there is a problem, I face the problem head-on in a professional and Christian manner.
This, however, doesn’t mean that it is a wimpy manner. It takes more guts and courage to confront a person face to face with facts, than to avoid the issue altogether. I am not one of those wimpy Christians who avoid the Matthew 18 instructions.
My wife told me what they are accusing her of doing. Well, more like what they think that I have done. I write this with a smile on my face. A smile of incredulity and also of thinking how pathetic, infantile and moronic the accusations are. If I were to have done those things they are accusing my wife and me of doing, I would first off, not use the means of communication that the real perpetrator used.
Come on; it’s the modern era of electronic information. It’s the social media frenzied time of everything is out there on the internet for all to see kind of time.
Not the archaic way that we have been accused of doing. I am not a fourth grader trying to get someone’s attention. Scratch that, a fourth grader nowadays has better social media skills than the average adult.
So if you are going to accuse us of doing something, please, don’t insult us, at least give us the credit of falsely accusing us of doing something, when it is a super stupendous well thought out plan. Not just little notes and phone calls.
As far as me confronting the individual or persons, I am praying about it, with an extended period of meditation. Because if I speak to them now, it will not be in a very spiritual way. I have to cool down enough to see that this person needs God. I hold no grudge against this person because I know they don’t have the peace that my wife and I do. The peace of Christ, who gives us tranquility in all the good and bad aspects of our lives.